Remembering the departed and how to commemorate it
For a believing Christian, death is not just the end of his life’s journey or the cessation of existence, not at all. This is a peculiar milestone, at the intersection of which we conquer it and gain eternal life, this is what we strived for during our short life span in the knowledge of truth in God.
When relatives and friends attend the sad news that someone from the inner circle died, everyone, staying in grief, arrange a funeral, a commemoration of the deceased, order liturgy, etc. according to all established church sacraments and folk traditions.
As a rule, after solving all legal issues, holding a liturgy on the newly-reposed (deceased or deceased), after a while, there comes a time of remembrance of the departed, and quite often in this important event you can find some moments that remained and moved people did not even know about it, and continuing to do everything the way they did when commemorating the departed.
First of all,remembrance of the deadcombines the prayer at home and in the cemetery and the memorial meal, and now let's look at all this in more detail.
The remembrance of the dead at home and in the cemeteryAs a rule, the duty of every Christian believer is home prayer for loved ones and relatives, including those who have died. After the death of a loved one, you should pray very hard for 40 days.
The Church also recalls that every day a prayer should also be dedicated.remembrance of the deadacquaintances, parents and relatives, who, according to a godly tradition, are written in a little book called a commemoration book.
In home prayers it is also possible to remember those who cannot be mentioned at church services, that is, non-Orthodox and suicidal.
Also, besides reading prayers, there is another kindremembrance of the dead- this is a charity that is done on their behalf on the day of remembrance. The giving of blessings to the needy in the form of charity in its diversity (money, food, clothes, etc.) multiplies the number of people who are in prayer for the salvation of the dead and creates the ground for their joy.
This pious custom has been established since the most ancient church times.Unfortunately, in our time, this event turned into a sort of picnic on the side of the road, when all the distant and not very close relatives, whom we can meet only once a year, gather and have a hearty meal with strong drinks.
The commemorations themselves imply nothing more than prayer and alms to the helpless and the poor — at first children and old people were seated at the table, and alcohol did not take place on the table.
If, however, relatives are going toremembrance of the deadthen, at least, one should start with the lit kuty (colivo) and, after reading psalm 90 and the prayer “Our Father”, remember the deceased at a modest home environment.
The remembrance of the dead in the cemeteryA kind of cemetery is nothing but the last refuge of the bodies of our loved ones. From pagan, pre-Christian times, the area where the body was betrayed to the earth was settled down with a hill, and the grave personified the place of the future resurrection, which should be kept clean and tidy.
Visiting a graveyard forthe remembrance of the dead,you should light a candle and pray, and if you wish, invite a priest and make a litia (enhanced prayer, a short one for the laity can be found in the prayer book), arrange, clean up the burial place, honor the dead and remember the dead.
Unfortunately, at the present time, the attribute of drinking alcohol, pouring vodka into the grave and instructing glasses was a familiar and traditional attribute in the cemetery. This should not be, by this we insult the memory of the deceased. These customs have migrated to us from paganism and are considered a relic. Do not leave food on the grave, better give it to commemorate the deceased beggar or hungry.